Comments on: What’s best: objective decisions or relationship-driven decisions?

By: Chris

Chris — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 17:39:32 +0000

I think “being right” is our ego getting in the way. “Being” is what we should all strive for and not let our ego’s get in the way of anything we do.

Great read is Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth” http://eckharttolle.com/a_new_earth

Still reading, but I think it jive’s very well with your post here.

By: Richard Mondello

Richard Mondello — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 18:05:46 +0000

I took a few days to think about this question and wrote up a pretty long answer on my blog.

http://richardmondello.com/2008/04/19/objective-decisions-or-relationship-driven-decisions/

Here’s an excerpt:

“In a perfect world, these two items aren’t diametrically opposed. In this fantasy land I just referenced, being loyal to one’s relationships is the right thing. We wouldn’t have to ask ourselves the tough questions or make decisions that challenge our values; regrettably, this world doesn’t exist. When found, it’s often short-lived.”

By: Richard Mondello : Objective Decisions or Relationship-Driven Decisions?

Richard Mondello : Objective Decisions or Relationship-Driven Decisions? — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 18:04:32 +0000

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By: Gary

Gary — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 23:24:22 +0000

I think the question in an “either or” form assumes a dichotomy that shouldn’t be. Do we want everyone feeling good about a “bad” decision that leads to disaster? No. Neither do we want a truly right position or decision that no one buys into and, therefore, is stillborn. How many corporate programs have you seen die, yet they were based on valid principles? Hence, we need both.

By: Shannon Paul

Shannon Paul — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:48:17 +0000

I agree — this is a good topic. In personal relationships, the decision to either be right or be kind is a little simpler… but, from what I can tell, it seems like people are better served by picking their battles wisely and carefully. Most issues just aren’t worth endangering valuable relationships.

By: Candis

Candis — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 22:41:03 +0000

Oooh, good one today. Many, many, many people are infatuated with being right, and I have had the pleasure (sarcastic) of working with and being related to many of them.

However, I think there are a great deal of things that are more important than ‘being right’. Like being aware of the context of a situation, being humble, being sensitive to someone’s feelings, just for starters.

Also, you can ‘be right’ in the right way or the wrong way, depending on your delivery methods and approach.